Marriage and Couples Counselling

Couple Counselling, sometimes called Relationship Therapy or Relationship Counselling, is no longer referred to as ‘Marriage Guidance’ or ‘Marriage Counselling’ because marriage does not always apply to relationships.  Couples counselling also applies to heterosexual relations, same sex relations and bi-relationships.

 

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The duties of a couples therapist are to listen, respect, understand and facilitate better functioning between the couple involved. In order to understand the dynamics of the relationship, the therapist may meet each partner individually at first but only if this is beneficial to both, is consensual and is unlikely to cause harm

At YRPS the guiding principles for our therapists are to:

  • Facilitate a confidential dialogue which normalizes feelings
  • Enable each person to express their emotions and be heard and to hear themselves in a safe environment
  • Provide input and reflection so that each partner can understand the relationship’s difficulties and those of their partner
  • Improve communication between the partners
  • Empower the partners to take control and make vital decisions to determine the destiny of the relationship
  • Deliver relevant and appropriate information
  • Change the view of the relationship, as necessary

As well as the above mentioned principles, the therapist will facilitate the following:

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  • To identify the repetitive, negative interaction cycle as pattern
  • To understand the source of reactive emotions that drive the pattern.
  • To expand and re-organize key emotional responses in the relationship.
  • To facilitate a shift in one or both partners’ interaction to new patterns of interaction.
  • To create new and positively bonding emotional events in the relationship
  • At times the therapist will help the relationship to dissolve with the least amount of stress possible